Patricia's Blog

Advocating for yourself is uncomfortable

If you’re not advocating for yourself, who will?

Advocating for yourself can be really, really uncomfortable.

Hard truth – we are all preoccupied with our own lives so no one is going to be as invested in your happiness as you are. That means its up to you to take care of you, including having healthy personal boundaries.

Personal boundary quiz:

  • Have you ever agreed to something to make someone else happy? Or to avoid a confrontation, an argument or having to justify yourself?
  • Have you agreed to something at the expense of your own happiness, or well-being?
  • Do you find your relationships feel like you are always giving way more than what you are receiving?

If any of these resonate, you need to look at implementing your personal boundaries.

Personal boundaries means speaking up for what you do or do not want in your life.

It means trusting your gut. If agreeing to something doesn’t FEEL good, then step back and re-evaluate.

Is making someone else happy worth

your mental health,

your self worth, and/or

your physical health?


  • No is a totally acceptable answer.
  • Your needs are just as important.
  • You deserve to be treated with respect.
  • The world will not come to an end by taking care of yourself.

The moral of the story is, implementing personal boundaries is uncomfortable.

So get comfortable with being uncomfortable and take care of yourself!!